"Social Media: Funny Game of Views/likes !":
It all starred with my posting on social media:"फेसबुक किंवा व्हाट्सअप वर आपल्याला मेसेज आला आहे की नाही हे बघण्याची तुमची फ्रिक्वेन्सी काय असते?
माझी पंधरा मिनिटे ते अर्धा तास !"
अ१६
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To which I got few responses like:
R1 " अशी काही ठराविक वेळ नाही. सकाळी-१० ते १५ मिनिटे, दुपारी व संध्याकाळी अंतर जास्त असते.
R2 "😀 मी फेसबुकवरचे संदेश मुख्यतः बातम्यांसाठी आणि विविध विषयावरील माहीतीसाठी बघतो , त्यामुळे ते साधारणतः १/१.३० तासांनी पाहातो. फेसबुकवरचे लेख मात्र मी एक पटकन दृष्टिक्षेप टाकुन वाचतो , त्यावरच्या लोकांच्या प्रतिक्रिया विशेषतः आवर्जून वाचतो कारण त्यातुन लेखकाला व प्रतिक्रिया देणार्‍या लोकांना त्या विषयाची किती जाण आहे याचा अंदाज येतो. बहुतेक वेळेला दोघेही गोंधळलेले आणि भरकटलेले असतात.
व्हॉट्स अॅपवर मात्र मी लक्ष ठेऊन असतो कारण माझ्या मुलींचे, नातवंडांचे, मित्रमंडळींचे विविध विषयावरचे संदेश सतत येत असतात. देवाणघेवाण चालुच असते. काही विषयविशेष ग्रुप असले तरी त्यातल्या अनेकांबरोबर स्वतंत्र संवाद, वादविवाद चालुच असतो. नविन माहीती आणि विषय कळतात, त्यांचे वेगवेगळे दृष्टिकोन कळतात. लोकांचे विविध विषयावरचे ज्ञान, अभ्यासु वृत्ती पाहुन चकित व्हायला होते. बरेच काही शिकायला मिळते. मेंदु , मन , शरीर ताजेतवाने राहाते 👍🏽👍🏽"
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My reaction to these:
"👍Thanks for an honest response. The purpose of this, was to understand where do I stand in the crowd of my contacts. Bottom line is your online social media time spent should have a definite goal & it should be in line with that, well balanced."
But , with yet another one, the interactive dialogue was lengthy & interestingly thought provoking !:
R3:
"It depends what i am doing
mid nothing is being done and just watching TV and phone is next to me then it pops up so you look at. but if working or busy or walking or driving etc then less frequency.
but still today itself i was talking to anjali that i want to see if i can curtail my WA and limit to morning and late evening. During day i will only look into certain groups that i have to respond as i am these days asked questions about travel protocols rt pcr as people are desperately wanting to know from me the procedures.
still i am not like todays youngsters who are on phone all the time (WA FB insta twitter and some more apps they only know).
bottom line may be a new year resolution for me is to curtail WA further (i have a feeling you are going to steal my resolution and write a small write up on this as if yours😎)
in your case, i see no reason to curtail WA or reduce frequency. for you it perfectly alright and i would say you should keep watching WA FB except not get into viewer count and so on. may be your new year resolution could be to curtail to be constantly focused on count of viewers. Great Authors write and not worry who reads!!!!
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Me: "can you tell me how to get over my habit of not worrying about the likes/no of views for my inputs on social media?
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R3: "Temptation !":
is not easy to remove which is why it is something that you are tempted to do. it is human nature! this is why world has run for better or worse: so nothing wrong in having desire to know the count of viewership.
first bare that in mind that it is usual and it is not a dicease until you turn it into.
if your hands start going automatically every few minutes to check the count and on top getting thrilled or dejected based on count is when you should realize that the desire has turned into a temptation.
A habit is good if you control it than it controls you.
There lies the answer how to overcome it.
Let it be a desire and set that desire for a daily knowledge than each minute desire. continuous desire is temptation.
Technically in order to control that habit a simple set of rule is set a time to check; once in morning and then after 12 hours once in evening. only two times a day. set that rule. in between desire tried to turn into temptation remind your mind to let it remain as a desire and about set time. Do NOT click those buttons or look at counts. best is do not bring up prior writing in front of you except these two times; that way it does not automatically pops up. even if pops up move to a brand new writing or reading.
Next one step to control is difficult for you as i know your nature. you have expectations from others to honor your actions. intellectually understand that others do not owe you anything.
I had informed you last few days before i came about my ultimate theory : the sorrow or sadness in world is 90% due to two things only "expectations and dependency";
Do not keep expectations: what count you get is a thank you to God. you did your writing and your are done! Did Bapu did poems and showed to others? he kept on writing.
Another advantage in this approach of writing and not writing for others to respond is your writing will become intense and not the showy or flowery only. you have an amazing great talent in many areas including one stroke writing then write more than chasing popularity. what are you going to achieve at age you are at by count being 10 or 100.
"Sidhhi peksha prasaidhhi mithi hote tenva manasachi bahuli banate. "
you are getting trapped in the temptation and becoming a puppet than a man who can write beautiful.
This does not mean not care of writing quality or desire to get acknowledgement but let that be a milestone on the road while you travel on road of writing than stopping your car to check what mile it is. set your goal is to achieve a tranquility of writing and getting peace out of that only than chasing mind wondering around counts. one thing keep in mind the count for you is not going to go beyond certain number (may be 25 50 100) it is not going to be 10000 ever. then why to get drowned in shallow water of small counts.
I always say any decision should be made intellectually than emotionally.
In this case, see what i said, acknowledge and accept with your brain and not mind what it is about and mainly intellectually accept and decide your step to take to control it.
Temptation is a function of mind and not brain.
There lies the key. make the process based on intelligence acceptance. if you do that then every time you have urge (mind) your brain will bring you back (if you really adopt it intellectually means understand agree implement with brain).
It will slowly change and you are so great that you may speed up.
Start congratulating when you have Plus day (ie you saw count only twice a day and also not get impacted with the number). start noting down negative days when you do not. make a tally. inspect tally at the end of the day which will automatically tell you what you should do next day in order to get a plus day. 3-4-5 days a week to achieve and then full marks.
What i said is not just true for counts but anything in life!!!"
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Me: "I do understand that I cannot compel others to act the way I expect them to act on my inputs. Hence it's futile to even think about number of views, likes. And I wonder how am I perfectly ok with my wife, who is just not bothered about what I do with Social media !-1
However for others, it means I have other yardstick for the responses ! -2
Hence solution is obvious, try that 2 above is equal to 1 !!
I don't know how much time period would lapse for me to achieve 2=1."
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R3:
"You are too good and talented
once you decide you do it
so this also you will achieve in short time.
Lottery winning :
unless you buy a ticket your chances of winning is absolute zero.
get it!!!"
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Moral of the ongoing story is well said in Bhagvat Geeta !":
"कर्मण्ये वाधिकारास्ते, मा फलेशु कदाच न !"
धन्यवाद
सुधाकर नातू
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